Thursday, January 19, 2017

Caution! Sharp curve ahead...

There has been a lot going on around the Lyon household since the last time that I've posted. Three children have graduated from high school, two children served LDS missions, one child is married, and then there's J-man. He is definitely the one that has made this journey very interesting.

J-man is now seven years old and is in second grade. He is a very tall and stocky boy. He's full of energy, laughter, love, and aggression. Yes, aggression. Most people don't believe that this sweet boy can turn into a violent child. The aggression is taken out on mom and dad mainly, with some of it directed at his siblings. We have been taking Joseph to various doctors for the past three and a half years. He has been diagnosed with multiple mental disorders. Everything from ADHD (Yes, he definitely has that!!), to Disruptive Mood Dysregulation Disorder (DMDD), Oppositional Defiance Disorder (ODD), Intermittent Explosive Disorder (IED), Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD), anxiety, and the most recent...high functioning autism. Out of all of these diagnoses, there are only two that involves multiple people compiling data to support the diagnosis-ADHD and ASD (Autism Spectrum Disorder). 

The road to get J-man to his most recent diagnosis has been rough. Sadly, it took having him admitted to an in-patient facility for 9 days, and being a part of day treatment for the past five weeks. We are driving an hour each way (with good traffic) in order to get him the help that he needs. I would love to say that we are seeing major improvements, but we're not. We are still having "rages" where he will come charging at us in order to hit, pinch, shove, scratch, kick, bite, and punch us. You might be thinking "why can't you just move out of his path?". Well, there is no successful way to avoid this. Once he becomes enraged, he will do everything that he can in order to cause us pain. We have even tried to lock ourselves into the bathroom, in which he then shattered a pumpkin pie in a glass pie plate. 

Again, J-man is a very sweet and loving boy, and it breaks my heart to see him become so aggressive. I worry about his future. I worry about our future. This journey has been a lonely one. Michael and I have become very good at pasting a smile on our face and pretending that all is well, when in reality our stomach is in knots as we're worrying when the next eruption will happen. While J-man was admitted into the Neuropsychiatric Institute, we were worried about him and tried to not get too used to the idea of being "safe" in our own home. Church was very difficult to attend. We chose to not go the first Sunday, and I had a responsibility the next Sunday, so we went. It was the same week that the children sang Christmas songs. I think I cried during the whole program. It was a mixed blessing that I only had a couple of people ask about Joseph/us (there were only a few people that we had told about our situation). I was an emotional wreck. I cried during most of the lesson that I taught. I was hurting. My baby boy was in a psychiatric hospital. I needed to know that everything was going to be ok, that it's not our fault, that we're doing the best that we can, and that we have a support system. That is definitely something that I've learned over the past few years...we can not do this on our own.

We still have many curves on the road ahead of us. We are hoping that with this newest diagnosis, we will truly be able to make some progress. The ultimate goal is for all of us to feel safe and loved. 

Sunday, October 2, 2011

All too fast...

It is amazing to me that we have been back in Utah for over a year! Where has the time gone? I had a huge list of things that I was going to do right after we moved back...and the list is still very long!  A lot of these activities involve going as a family. It is still hard to believe that I now have to work around a college student's, a high school student's, a middle schooler, a toddler, and a "world" traveling husband's schedule! The days of being bored, because there is "nothing going on", has definitely come to a crashing halt!

I would not trade any of this away (all except for the temper tantrums that are thrown...yes, some are by me!). Life is too short! I am learning to find all of the wonderful blessings that are in my life daily!

Thursday, January 27, 2011

Believe everything happens for a reason...

"No Left Turns- Life is to short to wake up with regrets so love the people who treat you right. Forget about the ones who don't. Believe everything happens for a reason. If you get a chance, take it and if it changes your life, let it. Nobody said life would be easy, they just promised it most likely would be worth it. Enjoy life now - It has an expiration date." Michael Gartner.

I found this quote today on a friend's status update on Facebook. For some reason, it has really made me think today (this was going to be a non-thinking day!)! I am a firm believer that everything does happen for a reason! Every move that I have ever made in my life (and I have moved a lot!), I can look back and see that we were in that place for a reason, and then I can see how things started to change before we've left. I think it is amazing how Heavenly Father helps to prepare us for these changes.

I look at all of the friends that I have made as we've moved across the country and back, and I have some amazing friends! There are some that I have lost contact with, for various reasons, and I regret that we haven't stayed in touch. Maybe when the time is right, things will change. The one part about this quote above that is difficult for me, is the "forget about the ones (friends) who don't (treat you right)". That is easier said than done!

I am working really hard on following my motto for this year: "Come what may, and LOVE it"! So, I'm sure that I will continue to have changes and obstacles, but as long as I handle them properly, everything will work out!

Everything is wonderful here. Natosha is auditioning at USU for a position in the Aggie Marching Band in February. Zachary now has a UT learners permit, so now we need to get him out on the road (watch out EM friends!) to practice. Kaitlyn has just been advanced to Symphonic band at the middle school, and she is so excited about this-and so are we! Joseph is finally going to sleep on his own-without being rocked!!Yay! Of course, he is full of mischievousness, and he keeps me on my toes! I can't believe he is almost 2!!

Wednesday, January 5, 2011

Random Thoughts from the Zoo: Cinch! by Cynthia Sass - A review and giveaway

I am so excited to try this new diet! I am ready to get a "jump start" on losing the few pounds that I have recently acquired. Check out this blog from a friend of mine! She is giving away a copy of this book!

Random Thoughts from the Zoo: Cinch! by Cynthia Sass - A review and giveaway

Thursday, November 18, 2010


Okay, so after my talk on Sunday (about Thanksgiving), I am trying to work harder on being thankful for all things. I am even trying to learn to be thankful for the trials that I have had in my life!! I am so thankful for the knowledge that the scriptures give us about how our Heavenly Father is mindful of us, and that He won't give us anymore than we can handle!

I am super excited about this Thanksgiving! We will be having most of Mike's family here, plus my "little" brother and his sweet wife! The last time that I've had Thanksgiving with any member of my family was twenty years ago. I am saddened to think that it has truly been this long since I have celebrated a holiday with a member of my family. I just hope that this will be the first of many times that my brother and I will get together!!

I would love to say that our lives have slowed down now that marching band season is over...but, I'm afraid that we are all still very busy! I loved being able to watch Tosha and Zac perform with the Westlake band. It was a sad night, a couple of weeks ago, when I realized that this performance was Natosha's last as a high school marching band student! On this same day, though, we found out that Natosha had been accepted to USU!! Yay!! My little girl is growing up (sniff, sniff)!

I hope that you all have a wonderful Thanksgiving, and that you will take the time to see all of the wonderful blessings that you have in your life!

Wednesday, October 27, 2010


This week, I have been given many opportunities to reflect upon all that I have been blessed with in my life. A lot of these reflections have come as I've been counting to 10 in order to calm down!! Joseph has hit the terrible two's, 5 months too early! He is really good at throwing temper tantrums, and I have a fat lip to prove it!

I have a wonderful family! I have four beautiful children, and an amazingly supportive husband! This week, I finally received an e-mail from my mother, after having no communication with her for over two years. I am hoping that this e-mail will spur more interaction between the two of us. I have a great father that I am learning more about all of the time! I also have four sisters and two brothers, that I am trying to develop better relationships with! Not to mention, my "second family", that has been great to be a part of for almost 20 years! 

I am honored to have some amazing friends that are there for me. Some of these sweet people I have known since high school. Thanks to modern technology, I have been able to reconnect with them, and to learn what is happening in their lives. There are some friends that I have, regardless of the distance, that I know are there for me any time, and that they care about me (and I care about them!).

I'm also thankful to be a member of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. I know that this gospel is true, and that no matter where we live, the same principles are being taught. It is also great to be a part of a ward family!

Tuesday, October 19, 2010


Okay, so I don't know what came over me today!! I went totally domestic and made applesauce!! I had seen it done before by my friend Mary Anne, but I had never been brave enough to try! So, I had a lot of apples that needed to have something done with them, and I decided to see what kind of a mess I could make!! I think that I had 24 apples and it made 3 1/2 pints of applesauce! It wasn't hard to make at all! The worst part was the peeling and seeding of the apples! I think I am going to check and see if I can get more apples and jars and make another batch or two! It tastes so delicious (if I do say so myself!!)!!

Now, what can I do with 6 large oranges????